Are you single and trying too hard?

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There are millions of single people yearning for a romantic partner who I sometimes think try a little too hard and can come across a little bit desperate. We all know that doing something about achieving what you want makes it far more likely that you'll get it than doing nothing! However, it is possible to do too much.  The danger there is you end up  burning yourself out, giving up when you don't get immediate desired results and going back to where you started out, worse than you were before because your optimism is gone. Below are some pointers to keep in mind in your search for someone special.
* Yes, it pays to advertise. However, if you tell everyone from your work colleagues to the person in you're local shop that you're single you could appear desperate, which is never an attractive quality.I think its better to confide in a few close friends that you are available to meet an interesting person if they know someone. Make sure to also tell them a bit about the qualities that attract you to avoid ending up on a blind date with Mr boring.
* Work smarter, not harder. Be selective in the dating sites, do not put yourself on lots of dating sites as this can also come across as desperate. When trying new places to socialise,Visit any such place more than a few times until you're sure it's not for you. Then, and only then, move on to another one. Flitting from one to another only wastes your time and tends to be discouraging. You also need the opportunity to become known at a particular place, so others feel comfortable approaching you.
* Be proactive. As in the rest of life, just showing up is often not enough. Attending lots of events and then just standing around when you get there accomplishes little but wearing yourself out. Choosing a few events and then putting yourself forward while there is usually a better plan. Let yourself be known. Approach others. Engage in conversation with many people, not just the ones you find attractive. Everyone responds to a friendly person and tends to shy away from someone who seems to be only there to hit on a certain select few. Besides, you'll be practicing your conversational skills.Most of all make sure you are attending events that you are actually interested in, otherwise this will show and you could give out the wrong impression.
* Do what you like to do and avoid the rest. Don't go to a Salsa class if you don't like to dance.When meeting online if writing is not your forte, avoid long email exchanges and opt for a phone conversation or a face to face meeting sooner rather than later. Admit your preferences and indulge them. Meeting new people is play, not work. You need to make it fun and not a chore.
* If you feel yourself becoming discouraged and repeating yourself take a breather from socializing and focus on doing something for pure pleasure, like taking a pottery class or a bus tour of your city. You might meet someone when you least expect it specifically because you're not trying too hard to impress and are simply having a good time. 
*Always ensure you are on Did I See U dating app, that way no matter where you are, if you cross paths with someone that you have taken a shine to, you have the chance to re-connect with them, giving you a second chance to make a first impression. Lets be honest we all have those moments when you pass someone in the supermarket and think phwoar he's nice or get talking to someone on the train and think "if only they hadn't had to get of at the next stop" because the conversation just flowed and you felt an instant connection, well with Did I See U, it doesn't have to end there, you get the chance to to see if there was a connection.



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